Dating and relationships can be tricky at the best of times, but if you suspect your partner might be cheating, it can be even trickier to figure out what’s really going on. Here are 10 signs your partner is cheating so you know whether or not to confront them about it.
1) If they aren’t spending time with you...
If you feel like your boyfriend or girlfriend isn’t spending as much time with you as they used to, it could be because they’re sneaking off for some alone time with someone else. Trust me, I didn’t want to believe it either—it’s hard to accept that someone we love and trust might betray us.
2) If they are spending too much time at work
Money is a big indicator of how people are spending their time. If they start coming home late and/or can’t account for where they were, it might be because they have another girl on their mind. However, remember that not every guy who comes home late has another woman in his life; he may just be working on something at work or taking care of some other important business that didn’t quite fit into his 9-to-5 schedule.
3) If they are going on multiple dating apps in private
Almost every dating app allows you to have separate accounts for single and seeing someone, but that doesn’t mean they should be used by anyone in a relationship. In fact, it says a lot about someone who would use these apps when they aren’t single. If you catch them on Tinder or another similar platform while they are with you, keep an eye out for other signs. For example, did their profile pic just change?
4) If they can’t account for their every moment
If your partner lives a busy life but can’t account for every minute, it may be a sign that they’re cheating. If they say things like I was at an appointment for work, ask what company they were with and what kind of appointment it was. If you find out that it wasn’t actually a business meeting or conference call, then there may be something else going on.
5) If they are anxious when you talk about relationship plans
Make sure they’re not just uncomfortable with making big decisions and/or don’t want to commit, but that they’re hiding something. If you have a tendency toward worrying or jumping to conclusions, try bringing it up and see how they react. They might get defensive, but their reaction will clue you in on what’s really going on.
6) If their appearance or hygiene suddenly changes
Your partner may have gotten a makeover, or perhaps they’re using some new cologne that you’re not used to. When we see someone every day, we get so accustomed to their scent and appearance that it can be difficult for us to notice when something changes. And even if you don’t notice a change in how they look, chances are good that somebody else will!
7) If they use their phone more than normal around you
Maybe you’re being a little bit paranoid, but trust your gut. It’s possible that they don’t want you checking their phone – even when it’s in plain sight – for a reason. If they seem uncomfortable when you ask about their social media accounts, especially if they normally like showing them off, that could be a sign too. And how often are they away from home? Anytime spent with friends or family should give rise to suspicion. They might have added a new Instagram friend who seems really attractive (and probably has hundreds of followers). Of course, these things aren’t definite signs of infidelity; however, together with other suspicious activity they can all make you wonder what on earth is going on.
8) If they suddenly want sex more often than normal
A 2014 study published in Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity found that men cheat more when they have more frequent sex. It might not be obvious at first, but once you see a clear uptick in how often they’re down for sex, it could be a sign of infidelity. Not everyone will notice—so don’t worry if you feel like you don’t fit into any category—but it can still be helpful information.
9) If they make excuses not to hang out with friends and family
You should always be suspicious when someone begins making excuses not to spend time with friends and family members. People who cheat often begin distancing themselves from others as a way of justifying their behavior, and coming up with reasons as to why they can’t hang out with people you both know is a classic excuse.
10) If you are constantly suspicious, but have no proof
It’s time to start asking some questions. Be direct and ask them, point blank. Ask what they’re doing when they say they’re working late, or where their phone was last night. Don’t accuse them of anything; simply seek answers. Ask where they were and why a date didn’t go well and how long it will take for them to do something around their house that you asked a week ago.
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