It’s no secret that dating can be difficult. The social pressure that puts on men to act a certain way or to achieve certain status can make it hard to connect with people and build meaningful relationships. If you’re looking for advice on how to improve your dating skills, here are 10 reasons why dating is hard for guys, as well as some tips on how to overcome them and reach your dating goals.
1) Being picky
It’s no secret that women have it a lot easier when it comes to dating. A large number of men are willing to date them, meaning they have their pick of men. Unfortunately, men do not get to be picky in the same way that women can—especially if they want a girlfriend who has similar interests and is on their level emotionally and intellectually. In order for guys to date successfully, they need to let go of any preconceived notions about who they think they should date.
2) Men have higher standards
If a man is asked out on a date, he’s expected to be a certain height, have certain job prospects and earn more than $X a year. Some will lower their standards if there aren’t many choices around them or they want to get into someone’s pants. However, most of us expect our ideal mate to be as close to perfect as possible.
3) The rules are different
A lot of guys feel uncomfortable because they think that women expect them to behave like grown-ups and carry on a conversation. Fact is, most girls are intimidated by smart men—but not in a good way. Sure, she wants you to be intellectual, but she doesn’t want you to outsmart her and leave her looking stupid in front of her friends. So, how do you get past all these barriers?
4) There are reasons for being scared
rejection, looking stupid and failing are just a few. So, to be more confident when dating – here are 10 tips:. 1. Realize you’re not going to get rejected every time you ask someone out; 2. Remember you look ridiculous no matter what; 3. Focus on your potential date instead of yourself; 4. Smile even if it makes you feel like an idiot; 5. Think about why she might say yes before approaching her; 6. Don’t share how nervous you are with others (it will only make things worse); 7. Take chances because there is no better way to figure out if you have chemistry than by trying; 8. Understand that dating is really hard for women too; 9. Relax – going on dates is supposed to be fun!; 10. Be proud of yourself for taking a chance!
The best advice I can give my son as he moves into his teen years is to focus on caring less about what other people think. Teenagers find themselves changing in many ways—physically, emotionally, and intellectually—and they tend to care very much what their peers think of them. This causes them great stress as they try their best to fit in while still being true to themselves.
5) It takes time to find the right person
You don’t want to settle for someone you aren’t totally into, and you shouldn’t—but settling down with someone you like is totally okay! When it comes to dating, trying to find that perfect person takes time. Many couples take years to find each other. That doesn’t mean you need to put off dating until your late 20s or early 30s, but know that finding love can be a journey.
6) Getting over a breakup is difficult
In addition to learning how to move on from a relationship, you also have to learn how to keep your emotions in check. After all, when you’re first getting over someone, it can be tempting to seek out new relationships just for comfort. This can cause you more heartache if things don’t work out and leave you hurting even more than when you started. Instead of jumping into another relationship too quickly, take your time and focus on yourself until your feelings are ready to move forward.
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7) we're more vulnerable than women
A lot of guys, especially young guys, don't realize that dating is an emotional challenge for us too. A recent study found that when a woman feels attracted to a man, her pupils dilate and her testosterone levels increase. But when men are shown pictures of women they find attractive, their heart rates speed up and their testosterone increases as well—however, it doesn't have quite as much impact on our brains. Put simply: We feel lust like women do but we can’t manage our romantic feelings like they can. That makes dating tricky. Don’t believe me?
8) Relationships take more time, energy, and effort than ever before
So, when you’re a guy with a full-time job, plus friends and family to deal with, dating is just too much. Let’s face it: Women are complicated. In fact, they want more than anything else to be treated as equals. Because of that, we have to make sure we understand how women think and how we can date in a modern world without seeming needy or desperate...Here are 10 reasons why dating is hard for guys
9) If we don't try, we can't fail.
Perhaps most important, it’s simply not healthy to avoid dating. After all, we have to try things at least once for them to fail. If we don’t try, we can’t fail. (And if you think about it that way, rejection is a non-issue. Who cares if someone doesn’t like you? You can either tell yourself they were never meant for you or find someone who appreciates your qualities.)
10) There's too much competition out there.
One reason why dating is hard for guys is because there’s so much competition. With so many people interested in getting into a relationship, it can be difficult to stand out from all of these other potential suitors. It makes sense that women would want to avoid the generic Hi texts and phone calls and instead hope for something more creative or thoughtful, like a well-written love letter or an invitation to an extravagant date.
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