After an affair, it’s common to wonder if you can make your relationship work. You may love your partner, and you may want to try to repair the damage that was done by the affair and move forward in the marriage or committed relationship. But can cheating really be overcome? Here are some considerations on whether or not you can work through an affair and rebuild trust in your relationship.
Yes, if both people are willing to forgive
It may sound like an unlikely scenario, but it is possible to salvage a relationship even if one or both partners have strayed from their commitment to their partner. Couples counseling can help you and your partner get back on track after an affair; however, there are no guarantees that everything will be 100% smooth sailing afterward. The success of your relationship depends largely on how willing you and your partner are to forgive and move forward together. You should not be afraid to leave an unfaithful partner because people deserve second chances.
There's no such thing as casual sex
Unfortunately, research has shown time and again that people who seek out sexual relationships outside of their primary partnerships are more likely to be unhappy in those relationships and report dissatisfaction with their primary partner. This is because our brains are wired for monogamy—all humans feel urges toward sexual variety, but people in committed relationships feel stronger feelings of lust for others than single individuals do. Even if you're not having sex with someone else, your thoughts may stray from your partner, which can still affect your overall satisfaction with him or her.
Why Do People Cheat?
If we’re going to answer whether or not a relationship can survive infidelity, we should first try to understand why it happens in the first place. Cheating is usually rooted in one of two things: (1) complacency and boredom within an otherwise healthy and happy relationship; or (2) communication issues that have been swept under the rug. Infidelity stems from either feeling like you need more excitement in your life, or simply misunderstanding what you do have and not communicating that with your partner.
The Impact of Cheating on Children
It’s Not What You Think: For years, researchers have wondered how children of cheaters cope. Now, studies are finally shedding light on an important question: what impact does infidelity have on kids? The answer may surprise you.
Research suggests that it doesn’t matter whether they knew or not — in either case, they feel betrayed and confused by their parent’s choices. The bottom line is that kids need stable home lives; if their parents can provide that stability despite their parent’s indiscretions, then it appears to be fine for them to stay together.
How To Recover From Infidelity
Cheating is an awful, hurtful thing to do. If you’ve cheated on your significant other and are ready to reconcile, we can help you rebuild trust and repair your relationship. Here are some tips for doing so. It’s never easy being unfaithful. Sometimes it happens when we don’t mean to be—other times it happens when we take something that isn’t ours. Some relationships have been through infidelity and come out stronger than before; others end in disaster because one or both partners feel betrayed by their partner’s actions. Either way, there will always be things that need working through after cheating has occurred. Fortunately, there are ways to move forward together:
If your partner cheats again
You don’t have to tolerate cheating in your marriage, but you might want to think about whether or not you should. Sometimes adultery is just an angry cry for help that happens once, but if it becomes a pattern, that may be because your spouse has deeper issues with communication and trust. In those cases, working through professional counseling can help both of you heal so that your partner doesn’t end up repeating their infidelity again.
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